Here’s a list of the top 8 things you should never say to a stay at home mom.

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These are all things I have LITERALLY heard in my 19 months of being a stay at home mom that I find the MOST irritating. Feel free to add to the list as I’m sure I haven’t heard them all…yet.

1. I’d get SO bored being a stay at home mom.

I get it, being a stay at home mom isn’t for everyone and yes, sometimes it is boring… however, for the most part my day is jam packed and FULL! Between a 7 am wake up call, breakfast, washing diapers and wipes, reading, playing, making the bed, wiping tears, changing diapers, lunch, trying to squeeze in a shower (I’ll get to that in a moment), lunch for myself, feeding the dog, labeling body parts, trying to figure out dinner, brushing my teeth, feeding Lincoln snacks, taking a walk, swinging outside, wiping tears, cleaning the house, updating you all on the joys of parenting, greeting daddy at the door, playing outside in the vroom vroom (Lincoln’s truck), bath time, cooking dinner, and finally putting Lincoln to bed at 7 pm I BARELY have the time to think about boredom. Sure my life may seem boring to some, but it’s the life I wanted and I’m blessed with.

2. Aren’t you afraid your child isn’t getting enough socialization?

Well I wasn’t worried about it until you mentioned it, thanks! It’s hard enough trying to make all the right choices in life for your kids so to have someone question your parenting skills is just plain annoying. And who cares if my kid doesn’t sing the ABC’s at 19 months…? I assure everyone he will go into Kindergarten not being a mute.

3. That must be SO nice to not HAVE to go into a job every day.

You’re joking right? You get to go into your job at 8 am and leave by 5 pm. I never ever ever ever ever ever EVER leave my job. It’s a round the clock never ending infinity times 1000 permanent life altering job. Would I change my “job”? Hell to the no, but still don’t insinuate that I sit and watch Days of Our Lives all day by saying it “must be nice to not have to go into a job every day.” HOWEVER, my job is pretty kick A$$… if I don’t want to get out of my pj’s on a rainy day… I don’t… if I don’t want to brush my teeth until noon… I don’t. So there… take that you suit wearing, panty hose doting, corporate clown.

4. Oh that’s wonderful you get to sleep in everyday.

Okay, I guess I sleep in if you consider being woken up every morning with the same noise at the same time and the time is 7 am and the noise is typically “bah bah bah bah door door door mama daddy daddy daddy daddy bah bah bah”. On top of that, I “sleep in” Monday-Sunday 365 days a year hung over from a date night with my hubs or not. Yeah, sleeping in is joyous, let me tell ya………………..

5. Don’t you feel like your degree was a waste?

Aye aye aye. So what you’re saying is that I can’t have personal goals and family goals? It was a personal goal to obtain my degree and proudly I did so from the University of Texas in Austin. It was also always a goal of mine to have a family and stay home with my children and I obtained that as well when I delivered Lincoln on July 29, 2010. No, I don’t technically NEED a degree to get impregnated and raise children, but I feel a sense of self-accomplishment for completing my degree regardless of what my future plans were. So lay off.

6. I’m worth too much for me to stay at home with our kids.

Not that it’s any of your business, but I’m fulfilling my career goals and providing for my family much more than I would if I was sitting at a desk 40 hours a week. In fact, have you seen the calculation of what a stay at home mom is “worth”? Exactly. I’m a full time teacher, a full time chef, a full time maid, the dry cleaner, the personal grocery shopper, the detergent making, penny pinching stay at home mom that’s not worth enough to justify going back to work. Thank you for clearing that up for me.

7. Will you get a real job when the kids go to school?

I’m sorry, but are you my career coach? And a real job? What? Raising kids, maintaining a home, and saving our family money is a REAL job! When kids go to school they still get out early, which means I need to have daycare arrangements. When they go to school extracurricular activities become more abundant, which means someone has to get them there. So no, I won’t be trading in my “fake” job for a “real” job when the kids are of school age.

Here’s me at 25 weeks prego at my “real” job or what I like to call the job from hell. Yeah don’t miss that “real” job for one minute!

8. When was the last time you took a shower?

Granted I hear this mostly from my sister during FaceTime, but RUDE regardless! No, I most likely haven’t taken a shower yet. And yes, it may be 3 pm. Leave me alone, sister :).

So tell me Stay at Home Moms, did I leave any off… I’m sure we all have our personal list of rude comments we hear as stay at home moms. Tell me your best one!

 

 

36 COMMENTS

  1. I don’t want to Uchi giftcard, but I’m 100% guilty of thinking several of those things while chatting with my amazing co-founder.  Just tell people you love your kid too much to let anyone else raise him 😉 That’ll scare them off!

  2. I LOVE this !!! Every single thing you said on here are the EXACT samething people have asked me or have commented to me. “So why did you want to become a nurse if your just a stay at home mom anyway?” Seriously can they not hear themselves. Am I really suppose to answer that question… Stay at home moms do have goals you know. Just like you said it feels good it was self satisfaction.

  3. Great words! I’ve been a stay-at-home Mom for 11 years and I can honestly say it never gets easy, but I wouldn’t go to a corporate job for anything. (And, yes, I have a degree and could be making a nice paycheck.) Kudos, Allison, for saying what so many people need to hear!

  4. Grrrr those comments are so irritating! It bugs me when working friends/family ask me to do them a favor during the day and say “well I’m asking you because you are just at home all day anyway and have time”….wth? Really?! Brandon has even intervened in those conversations to keep people from getting injured 😉
    Good post Allison…I love it!

  5. LOVE this Allison!!! Toughest most rewarding job for sure but I wouldn’t change anything these are such special memories we will cherish forever! I am soo happy I chose to stay home with both our babies & yes I have heard every single one of these comments ugh :)!!

  6. Thanks for sharing this today!! I am a new stay at home mom who sometimes struggles with my decision. I swear though, I kinda think going to work everyday is easier!!

  7. The reality if being a stay at home mom for me is that my kids aren’t raised in a baby factory by someone who makes $7 an hour. No one can mother your children like you do. As far as socialization, I would much rather choose the positive influences for my children then throw them amongst a slew of snotty nosed bad mannered kids whose patents drop them off to learn to “socialize.” that is where bad habits and selfishness begin.

    • Some women are wonderful stay at home moms and absolutely LOVE it and wouldn’t want it another way, others want a career, need the second income, are single mothers, or just know that stay at home mom is not for them. Each choice is perfectly fine. No one can mother our kids the way we do, that is why they have just one mother. Other people are able to love your children though and look after them in a positive way, not all day cares/home care are negative. 
      I know a lot of snot nosed, bad mannered kids with bad habits that have stay at home moms. Just because a child has 2 working parents and has to be dropped of some where does not mean they will not have clean noses or good manners. That comes from home whether the parents work or not. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a mom making the choice to stay home or go to work. To each their own.

      • I agree Ashlee! I can’t wait to read Vanessa’s blog next week on the things NOT to say to Working Moms! V and I are guilty of pissing each other off with our comments.

        LOL, Vanessa! We both have some GREAT material to work with 🙂

        • For sure Allison…great blog material 😉  Moms usually are pretty passionate about our opinions and say too much some times or don’t think about the other side. I am sure I have pissed off a working mom at some point as well. I am extremely passionate about being a stay at home mom and would be a terrible employee if I was working because that is not what I want to do. I have family and friends that are much better mothers because they do work and don’t stay home all day. No mother should be made to feel guilty for making a choice that is right for their family!

  8. I know I’m not a mom yet, but I love this one! I saw this on Facebook a little while ago- it goes along with #6…

    JUST
    A MOM????….. I cant stand it when people say, “Your JUST a mom?” Yes,
    I am a Mom! That makes me an alarm clock, cook, maid, waitress,
    teacher, nurse, referee, handyman, security officer, photographer,
    counselor, chauffeur, event planner, Hairdresser, personal assistant,
    ATM & I scare away the boogie man. I don’t get paid holidays, sick
    pay or days off. I work through the DAY & NIGHT. I am on call 24/7
    for the rest of my life. And that’s just with BEING A MOM.. !! I may not
    be anything to you but I am everything to someone!! Re post if your a
    proud mom, that would do ANYTHING on this planet for their child ♥ !!
    This is what a REAL MOM does 24/7

    This sure would make me proud to be a stay at home mom!

  9. I’m a part-time SAHM and part-time in the corporate world.  A grandmotherly type asked me in the grocery store if I considered my job more important than my son and if that’s why I wasn’t a full-time SAHM.  Really lady?!  I consider myself blessed to be able to do both and to a fairly good degree!

  10. I HATE when I get asked “when are you putting him in mother’s day out?” or in a rude way “why is he not in preshool?” I made the choice to be a stay at home mom, I made the choice to not have someone else raise my kid, I made the choice to not have a full time income – I am not asking my husband to pay for day care so I have the freedom to get pedicures while my kid finger paints. Now, please know, I feel strongly that this is right for MY kids, doesn’t make anyone wrong if they choose differently!!!

    • Well Lincoln is starting his Mother’s Day Out in September… when are you thinking about one for Laxton??? LOL! Totally kidding! I think you hit the nail on the head. It’s what you feel is right for YOUR kids, but everyone has a different opinion of what is right for THEIR kids. We are ALL different and unique and that’s what makes the world so interesting! I’m actually thankful for all of the above random comments… it makes for good bloggin’ content!

      • Absolutely! For me it is an individual child thing and a financial decision. I don’t have the extra income to spend to send my kids to “preschool” Logan thrived at home. I know in my heart he needed every moment with me that he got – he is a one on one, focused attention kind of kid. However, alot in our life has caused me to think Levi would do better if he had a MDO to attend, but financially we have made the choice to spend our money elsewhere. I will never say never, but Levi only has one more year left at home and I want to enjoy every moment. We will make an individual decision for Laxton when the time comes. Now – if we ever have another child, I may need the sanity break 🙂

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