What binds us together is motherhood and whether you are a veteran mom, expecting mom, new mom, or just want to be a mom, we all have one common denominator… our love for children and motherhood. Today, Katie, an IVF veteran shares what NOT to say to an infertile friend!
So — you are fertile — good for you! I’m super excited that you just told me that you, “look at your husband and get pregnant,” no really. I am. I mean — I am *now* — but I’m four and a half years out of my IVF journey! But four years ago, I would have smiled but secretly wanted to stab you in the eye with my fork. Instead of writing my story again from this morning … I hope you take the time to read it here! This time I wanted to share a few things that you should and shouldn’t say to your infertile friend!
Infertility blows. Infertile women feel like their bodies are broken. Or they are crushed that their husbands can’t give them what they need. Infertile women struggle all day, every day (especially if you are pregnant and they are on medication). Have you seen my post about our IVF journey? I needed my own sharps container at home for the amount of drugs I was taking.
Ever wondered how to handle a friend battling infertility?
Here are a few tips!
1. Never ever (ever) tell your infertile friends to “just relax”. I’m sure you know that ovulation doesn’t occur based on whether you’ve mediated with a glass of wine. Some women ovulate regularly, some don’t ovulate at all. Yes yes — I know, stress can change our hormones, which in turn, can change things in our body … but seriously, keep the relaxation concept to yourself.
What to do instead?
What would you add to the list of things NOT to say? Come on… you know you want to tell us!
In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, it is our hope to raise awareness and educate our community about the varying types of infertility and the many options available. We hope that you are empowered by this series, because we really are in this journey of motherhood together. Please continue to support the real moms this week as they share their journeys. To read more, please click here.