I have recently been going back and forth with my husband and myself about having 2 or 3 children.
We only have 1, but if we decide to have only 2, then I would like to space them out a bit. I’d love to share what’s going through my mind, and hear your thoughts!
A big reason why my husband and I are contemplating only having 2 is because financially it would be easier. Now you officially think I’m the worst mom in the world, and that I have no heart. Well, I do have a heart, and I do love kids. My husband and I aren’t loaded, we are middle class and work our butts off to live a comfortable life. I have always been a very contemplative person, and I do not make rash decisions.
I weigh the pros and cons, imagine how it’s going to impact my life currently and in the future. I’ve always imagined having 3 children (I have 2 siblings), but now I can imagine what life would be like with just two.
- Could we travel more?
- Would I be able to pay for BOTH of their college education so they don’t have any debt when they graduate?
- Could we keep our smaller vehicles because we don’t have to have a 3rd row (That’s my husband’s biggest argument)?
The U.S. Department of Agriculture estimates it will cost a middle-income household $245,000 to raise a child born in 2013 to the age of 18.
The other side to the argument is…you make it work. Have 3 kids and make the sacrifices you need to make to have a family of 5. You may not be able to go on extravagant vacations or pay for their education in full, but your hearts will be full of love.
I totally see this side of it as well. My sister has 5 girls, and each one of them is so extremely unique and different, and my fear is that I’m going to miss out on an insanely amazing human being like my son. I also think having a larger family to go home to during the holidays is wonderful, and more grandkids (I’m too young to be thinking about grandkids…geez)!
I’m not sure what our decision will be as a family, but I hope the Lord gives me peace with whatever decision we make. Maybe we’ll have 2, and then we’ll get baby fever years down the road and decide to have another (I was born 6 years after my brother and sis who are only 18 months apart). So who knows, but I know that we will follow our hearts whatever decision that may be.