I’ve heard some CRAZY things over the past 41 weeks. That’s right — 41 weeks. Some people just have no shame in asking inappropriate questions or saying inappropriate things. I sure won’t miss these:
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“You’re as big as a house!” Hmm… Look who’s talking.
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“Wow, you’re only ____ months along? You’re so big!” Thanks.
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“How are you feeling?” Nice gesture, but the same as yesterday, and the day before and the day before.
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“When are you due? You look ready to pop!” Tell me about it.
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“How much weight have you gained?” WOW. Are you really asking me this?
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“So you like wearing tight clothes to show off that bump, huh?” Yes, actually I do. I don’t like looking like a cow or a tent.
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“First babies are ALWAYS late.” I didn’t know you were a doctor…
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“Look at that belly!” (From a complete stranger…) Thanks for noticing.
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“Are you sure you aren’t having twins?” No, jerk. Just one.
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“There’s no way you can deliver without drugs.” Thanks for believing in me.
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“You look so uncomfortable.” Thanks for noticing my lack of make up and care…
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“You don’t have a name/middle name yet? What’s wrong with you?” Hurtful.
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“Are you sure you don’t want decaf?” Yes, I’m VERY sure.
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“You might not want to eat that/drink that.” You’re not my doctor. Please, shut up.
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“What’s his name? Oh. You should choose ___.” Oh, really? Thanks for indiscreetly telling me you dislike the name that has been in the family for 10 generations.
What’s the worst thing someone has said to you while pregnant?
I hear you! I have been blessed with the ability and financial means to adopt a child(she is now almost 11) and also blessed to carry 2 boys. The comments while adopting expecting were way more hurtful than when I was pregnant expecting. I have come to realize that I have to look at people’s intentions rather than their hurtful & ignorant words. Most do mean well. I also decided I was not going to let them take away the joy I have. I had to keep telling myself, just because someone says something, stating as fact, does not make it true! Don’t get me wrong, I have brought plenty of people up to speed! Be blessed!
Also, for the last 14 years I have been a L&D nurse, the comments are in full force by “well meaning friends and family” in the labor rooms. The insensitive comments still shock sometimes!
I just wrote a blog post about some lady coming up to me in DSW while I was checking out the necklaces NEXT TO the belt rack and saying “I can’t imagine you getting a belt around that,” and laughing. All I could think was I may not be able to get a belt around this belly but I could surely get it around your neck to strangle you!
I just wrote a blog post about this same thing! This past weekend I was at DSW looking at some necklaces located next to a belt rack. Some lady came up behind me, laughed, and said “I can’t imagine you getting a belt around that!.” All I could think was: I may not be able to get a belt around this belly but I could surely get it around your neck to strangle you with!
When I was pregnant, I fantasized daily about responding to the many strangers who had a razor-sharp grasp of the obvious and felt compelled to comment on my appearance with an equally inappropriate and uninvited observation. Never had the guts, so instead I have committed myself to complimenting pregnant ladies on their hair or shoes or some non-bump aspect of their appearance.