10 Supportive Phrases All Moms Need To Hear

No doubt about it – motherhood is the greatest thing and the hardest thing. It takes a certain type of person to make it through – it takes A MOM! Most of us feel like we could do a better job, but  sometimes the first step to being a better parent is actually about how we treat ourselves. We can only give what we have inside.

Here are some thoughts about how to just let go and enjoy the ride.

The words we need to hear when we think we are failing as moms, these really get to the truth of things and can make us feel a little better when motherhood gets tough:

1. ”It’s okay to not have it all together.” There’s nothing wrong with a little crazy. In fact, it’s encouraged. Sometimes, the only way to stay sane is to go a little crazy. You’re allowed to scream, you’re allowed to cry, and It’s totally okay to end the day crying on the kitchen floor texting a friend or…mom. Don’t be ashamed. . . about any of it . . . EVER.
2. “You’ve given up a lot, and it’s worth it.” When I ask my moms friends if they dream of running away, every single one of them says yes. They might laugh when they reply, but everyone has a couple of things they miss – sleeping in every weekend; spontaneous date nights with their husbands and all the career opportunities they’ve passed up by having kids. But they all also say that the small everyday moments of extreme heart-bursting love experienced between them and their babies make it all worth it.
3. “Kids are supposed to act like kids, so don’t be embarrassed or stressed when they do.” It’s important to remember that most of the time, our kids are acting just like kids are supposed to act, and we shouldn’t be disappointed or embarrassed or frustrated if they don’t act like an adult all of the time. Sometimes we forget, kids are just kids.
4. “You are not alone.” Every mother (even if she looks totally put together) has discouraging times. I always feel so much better when a friend says to me “mine do it too”. Knowing that my child isn’t the only one who gets tired or frustrated and acts out gives me the confidence to keep trying to figure out this whole parenting gig.
5. “Everyone is not judging you.” When we feel insecure we believe others see our every flaw. They do not. Most of the time people don’t know your faults until you spill them out because you assume it’s already so obvious. Just because we don’t see others making mistakes, does not mean they are not happening. Remember, everyone else is just as human as we are.
6. “You are doing an amazing job.” Parenting has never been an “easy” gig. But you’re the perfect mother to your children simply by being YOU. Everyone has bad days. But even on your worst days, you are most likely handling motherhood way better than you think.
   

   You are a great mom.

7. “All of the little things that you do for your kids now don’t go unnoticed.”As I think about my daughter, and what she observes in my life, I know that I have to do my best to be the kind of person that I want my daughter to be, we all do; because our children are watching. Our healthy attitude toward sleep, food and discipline will affect our children in the most important ways.
8. “It’s okay if you don’t love every moment.” Nobody said you had to love being covered in spit-up and changing dirty diapers all day (and night) long. I don’t love the sleepless nights and the fussing and the tantrum that results from giving my daughter a green cup instead of her favorite yellow one. Being a mom is hard, and it’s okay if you don’t enjoy every single moment of motherhood. This does not make me or you a bad mom. It makes us human.
9. “It is okay to accept any offers of help.” I used to be (and still am sometimes) too stubborn to ask anyone for help, I wanted to do it all (laundry, cleaning the house, preparing healthy meals, playing all day with my baby etc.) and when I didn’t do it, I felt like a failure. Every mama deserves a break sometimes. It doesn’t make me or you any less of a mom when we ask for help or accept any offers of help.
10. “Trust your instincts.” There’s no one right way to be a good mom. You have to do whatever feels right. It’s a mother’s instinct to take good care of her children.There are so many conflicting opinions out there about what we should and should not be doing when it comes to raising our children. Do whatever works for you, your baby and your family. Every baby is different, and the baby books just don’t work for everyone.

Moms, we’re doing just fine. If you are reading this because you are new mom, I hope you feel the love your fellow-moms are sending your way. There will be times when it seems NOTHING works, that it’s not abnormal to wonder what the heck you’ve gotten yourself into and to feel overwhelmed. There is nothing else in the world that has brought me the spectrum of emotions that I have gone through having my baby, and I’ve only been a mom for a little over a year.

It’s physically exhausting, often frustrating, but I have never been so happy.