Dear White People, I ask myself in silence when is this going to stop….is this going to stop? When did this become the new normal? When is white privilege going to stop? George Floyd did not resist, he repeated multiple times “I can’t breathe “…. Ahmed Aubrey went jogging and was gunned down by 3 white men…. Eric Garner repeated multiple times as well “I can’t breathe” …. Botham Jean gunned down by Amber Guyger in his own home…. oh, I forgot…apparently you can’t bird watch in New York now without being falsely accused of attacking a white woman for just asking her to put her dog on leash.
I ask again, when is this going to stop? These are prime examples of what you would call white privilege and racism at its finest. This sickens me, and it scares me for my 3 black children and the world that we live in today.
Ironically, my husband and I had a conversation last week regarding racism, and I told him that the world see’s color first. At first, he did not agree with me, he stood firm on his belief and stated, “No That’s Not True!” I told him that our son can walk out of this house with his white friend who is the same age as him (18 yrs old), dressed just a like, same height, same weight. Once he steps foot out of this house society will see him as a Black Man first, not two young men, but as a Black Man. Never mind his accomplishments, awards, and accolades that he has received, his friend will have the upper hand over him because he is white.
I never thought that I would be living in a world that the people who came before me, who came before my parents, who fought so hard against the injustice and racism that African American received in country. To see how racism, police brutality, white privilege, and killings of unarmed black men and women are something of the norm now, I can’t process that thought! Now, I am raising three children in midst of this, and I am terrified for them.
See this is a conversation that all black parents, no matter what your economic status or background is, must have with their children, BECAUSE THEY ARE BLACK. When my two teenage son’s who are both 18 and 14 years old leave my house, the goal is for them to return home unharmed and safe.
My husband and I have had this conversation with all three of our kids, yes including our 12-year-old daughter (she is not immune to the situation). If you get pulled over by the police, you put your hands in plain sight, look forward do not speak unless you are being spoken to, you know your rights, and DO NOT MOVE. Unfortunately these are the conversations that black and brown parents have to have with their children, because it has become reality that there is a possibility that our children may not make it home unjustly at the hands of the police. Now, I know this may not be the norm for some of you, but this is my norm. This is the norm for a black mother who is raising 3 beautiful black children in a predominantly white neighborhood, and often times they are questioned if they live in the neighborhood because they don’t look like the norm….this is my truth.
On Memorial Day, Amy Cooper decided she would make a false report to the authorities in New York City and state that she was being attack by a black man who was bird watching who simply asked her to put her dog on leash. Mr. Cooper (who is of no relation to the accuser) video taped the entire incident, showing Amy Cooper stating that she was going to call the police and tell them that she was being attacked. Word to the wise to all the Amy “Karen” Coopers out there, please think long and hard before you decide to call the police to make a false report on anyone, especially a person of color.
This incident could have ended so differently than it did. Yes, Amy Cooper was fired from her job, and she have to return the rescue pup back to the shelter where she got it from, BUT Mr. Cooper could have easily lost his life, or been beaten, or arrested. Why? Because a white woman chose to use her white privilege and call the police and make a false claim that she was being attacked. Ms. Cooper thought that by her being white, this situation was going to be just in her favor. That was until the video was release, and the world saw how she acted.
We as a society have to do better, we have to want better as a collective. We cannot just sit by and comment on social media, but when it is time to get out and fight for equality and justice for all, we all need to get out there and fight…not just black people. I do not know what we are going to need to do for change to happen, but we all have to do our part, white people that includes you too.
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