Hello Loves. 2020 has definitely been one for the books. I’m sure many of us didn’t think that we’d be living during a time such as this. For years, my people have done their best to be treated fairly. We want those of other nationalities to know that we are human. We love, we cry, we have families, we want to be successful. We don’t want to have to worry if we are to be pulled over by the police if we will make it home alive. If you’re going to use your white privilege, do so in a positive way – where do we go from here?

I’ve driven through my city and surrounding cities and see the protestors of all colors. I see the support from my friends all over the world and it makes me proud. No, this is not their first time being vocal about the issues we face today. They care…Now, is the perfect time to change the narrative. We can’t continue to pretend that all is well in the world. 

To my Black and Brown Friends:

Let’s continue to teach our children love….to accept themselves and their beautiful skin. From the moment they have entered your life, give them positive affirmations, repeat them daily. Teach them that they are a light in this world. Yes, we all need to learn our history. No, our schools have not been a place of education when it comes to teaching black history. Enough of leaving the responsibility of our children’s education to those who only teach that we were slaves. You are born of kings and queens, engineers, poets, artists, scientists, business owners, leaders, and so much more. Parents, it’s our responsibility to fill in the gaps of what our schools are not sharing with our children. Continue to be mentors, Big Brothers and Big Sisters to those in our community who need them. 

Let’s teach our upcoming generation to make their own destiny. Teach them to not be defined by what society wants to see them as but live their lives as their true authentic selves. 

One of my favorite quotes is, “I am my ancestors’ wildest dreams.” It takes on a whole new meaning. You are your ancestors’ wildest dreams. You are free, you are love, you are a light in this world. Your beautiful melanated-skin is a gift to this world. Your knowledge is one to be shared with many. Your kindness is your strength. 

To my White and Other Friends:

Start with love. Teach your families acceptance of those who don’t look like them. Show them that you want others to be treated equally. Be vocal. Join your friends on the frontlines. Don’t wait until another black/brown person is killed before you decide to take action and support. Not everyone can protest on the picket lines but there are many ways to be involved. Be proactive. Yes, you’re going to lose friends who look like you that don’t support the cause. Stop having that token black/brown friend. Have friends that look like you and ones that do not look like you. We are a rainbow in this world. Stop limiting yourself.

Stop using movies and TV shows that show you what our community is not. We are not drug dealers or prostitutes. We don’t wait on the government for handouts. Read the above again to see what WE are! Share those positive stories with your children. Yes, that means you should learn OUR history too. 

White privilege is real. If you’re going to use your white privilege, do so in a positive way. Use it to help others whose voices may not otherwise be heard. Don’t use it because what “we” do doesn’t fit your narrative. Work in the community to help others less fortunate than you. Understand our story, our fight. 

Let’s continue to fill this world with love so much so that it has no choice but to love back. I want our children to leave a legacy. I want them to feel safe and accepted by all wherever they live in this world. Social media can be a beautiful platform for us all to use in making our voices heard. So use it, whether sharing a post on history or your own personal views. 

Make a difference. Choose kindness and love over bigotry and hate. 


Patrice was born and raised a Georgia Peach, and thanks to her military service in the U.S. Air Force, she has lived in several states. Patrice is a Grantham University graduate student, holding her Bachelor’s in Business and her M.B.A. She is the wife of Daniel and mom to Dana and Alana. Passionate about her family and running the family business with Daniel, she is always looking to learn something new. Writing, traveling, and dancing is just a shortlist of her hobbies. You'll often catch her with her head in a book, enjoying all of the local Tex-Mex restaurants and exploring Austin’s most beautiful hiking spots.


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