Dear Mom,

I see you. I see the weariness in your eyes, the weight you carry on your shoulders, and the longing in your heart. You’re doing your best, but sometimes it feels like you’re navigating this journey alone. You haven’t found your tribe yet, and that’s okay.

Motherhood is often portrayed as a journey filled with laughter, support, and camaraderie. We’re bombarded with images of moms chatting over coffee, attending playdates, and sharing stories of triumphs and challenges. But what if that hasn’t been your experience? What if you feel like you’re wandering alone in a world where everyone else has found their people?

Here’s the thing, mama: You’re not alone. There are countless mothers out there who, like you, are searching for their tribe. But I want to remind you that your worth as a mother is not defined by the number of friends you have or the playdates you attend.

Your journey is unique, and your experiences are valid. Maybe you’ve moved to a new city and haven’t had the chance to connect with other moms yet. Sometimes you feel like you don’t fit in with the moms at your child’s school or daycare. At times your significant other gathers with friends and you start to feel like you’re missing out. Whatever the reason, please know that it’s okay to feel lost, and it’s okay to long for a sense of belonging.

Finding your tribe isn’t always easy. It takes time, patience, and vulnerability. It means putting yourself out there, even when it feels uncomfortable. It means being open to new experiences and new people, even if they don’t fit into the mold of what you thought your tribe would look like.

Your tribe may not be a group of moms who meet up for playdates at the park every week. It might be an online community of fellow moms who understand the struggles you’re facing. It might be a neighbor who offers a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on when you need it most. It might be a group of coworkers who rally around you, supporting you through the challenges of balancing work and motherhood.

Your tribe might not look like what you expected, but that doesn’t make it any less valuable! They’re the ones who lift you up when you’re feeling down, who cheer you on when you succeed, and who remind you that you’re never alone on this journey.

So, dear mom, keep searching. Keep reaching out. Choose a hobby and activities that fulfill your soul and keep being open to the possibility of finding your tribe in unexpected places. And know that when you do finally find them, it will be worth the wait.

With love,

A fellow mom on the journey


Bianca Segundo
As an entrepreneur and speaker, Bianca spends her days in a green spinny chair putting her creative peddle to the floor or booking marketing workshops with one hand while passing out snacks with the other. Her Business Make It Bloom Media is a digital marketing agency that helps women create a jaw-dropping brand aesthetic and build an unforgettable online presence that you may have seen on the CW Austin. Born and raised in Mason, Texas, Bianca got her first dose of wanderlust in 2015 when spontaneously making the move to Pennsylvania with her husband David. Since then, the two have traveled up the Northeast US every six months to a year in their RV before they realized a car seat would be an added accessory on future trips. To become closer to their families during this time, their landing inched nearer to their hometowns when finally landing in Austin in 2020. As a wife to an adventure enthusiast and mom to 2 energizer bunnies, you can often catch them frequenting Austin parks, farmers markets, festivals, the lake, diving into DIY projects, and throwing steaks on the grill. Follow her journey on Instagram at @biancasegundo_ or @makeitbloommedia


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